Many people face the consequences of being traumatized unconsciously and do not even realize that the cause of their psychological discomfort was a psychologically traumatic event that they experienced many years ago.
Origins of the problem
Some events of our life have negative influence not only on a psychological condition of the person, but in certain life situations sometimes even become the reason of inadequate behavior of the mentally healthy person. Psychological traumas can occur at people of any age. They happen more often in children than in adults.
But in adulthood, our feelings about something can cause a secondary psychological trauma. If a psychologically traumatic event falls on some kind of psychological trauma experienced in childhood, the so-called retraumatization occurs.
Psycho-traumatic experiences gained in childhood and left underexplored in adulthood can cause various psychological or even psychiatric problems. Traumatic events and uneasy feelings can live in people’s subconscious for many years, and when other events occur in adulthood, the old wounds caused by negative childhood experiences will be disassembled again. In this case, in order to restore psychological balance, great efforts must be made and professional psychotherapeutic help must be sought.
Adults may also have psychological traumas unrelated to their childhood experiences. They are most often caused by sudden death of loved ones, car accidents with serious health consequences, natural disasters and terrorist attacks. Even divorce can be a psychologically traumatic event, but divorce becomes a trauma only under certain conditions of experience: if it is accompanied by scandals and resentments, and the resulting negative emotions and feelings are not worked out and accumulate (“I don’t believe anybody anymore and I won’t marry anymore, because all men are scoundrels”), the situation becomes psychologically traumatic.
Adults also have other psychological traumas. For example, in women they may be associated with abortion or miscarriage. In our country, this topic is partly taboo and partly ignored. Society has a negative attitude towards abortion, and it is not customary for us to discuss such topics. As a rule, this difficult event is experienced alone, so entire generations of women have lived and still live with deep psychological trauma.
But there is another problem related to psychologically traumatic situations. It is proved that there is a mechanism of hereditary transmission of psychological trauma: if it is not resolved in one generation, it is passed on to children or grandchildren. Systemic family therapy suggests that such unresolved and unexplored psychological traumas can cause mental disorders in future generations, such as schizophrenia. For this reason, psychologists advise to be attentive to their psychological state.
Only a professional psychotherapist can detect psychological trauma in an adult person, which occurred in childhood. It is necessary to understand why we are talking about children’s psychological traumas. The fact is that an adult person already has a certain life experience and knows how to cope with negative emotions, how to survive fear and severe stress. Therefore, in many situations, when receiving psychological trauma, an adult understands when he or she needs psychological help. But the child does not know this.
In most cases, the child’s trauma is hidden somewhere in the depths of the person’s subconscious, and only a specialist can understand exactly what he or she needs to work on. But a preliminary self-diagnosis can also be done independently. Here are the most disturbing symptoms that can be caused by the psychological trauma experienced in childhood.
- Inadequate emotional response, physical or somatic experiences in seemingly normal situations.
For example, if a person notices that he or she has anxiety, heartbeat or other uncomfortable feelings (e.g. fear, danger) without any reason while away from home. If such feelings arise for a long time and always in certain situations, they can be caused by the consequences of a child’s psychological trauma.
- Memory failures related to childhood events.
Some people claim that they do not remember themselves in childhood: how they lived, what they did, what happened to them. Such memory failures may be a sign that something psychologically damaging has happened to the person as a child and memory has blocked memories of these negative events. If a person does not remember the faces of people close to him or her, does not recognize in the photographs the relatives with whom he or she communicated a lot in childhood, such white spots in his or her memory may be a sign of an undeveloped child’s trauma lurking in the depths of his or her mind. In such cases, human memory will actively block the memories of the experienced psychologically traumatic situations and do everything to preserve the functional capabilities of the person and avoid strong traumatic experiences. To restore mental health, it is very important to detect such failures, and a specialist can help in this.
What’s to be done?
If you suspect that you are traumatized, try to take steps to get rid of this psychological burden. The following tips will help.
Tip one: look at your own experience and find out your childhood history.
The easiest thing you can do to identify a traumatic experience is to talk to parents or other loved ones who remember your childhood. Ask them what situations caused you the most anxiety in your childhood, what worried you the most, what were you most afraid of. Psycho-competing situations can be completely harmless at first glance: you were sent to your grandmother’s house in the village for three years. Did your brother break your favorite toy or take your bike away? Such situations can leave a deep mark.
Tip two: be careful and careful about your psychological state.
If certain situations cause you inexplicable anxiety, try to analyze why this happens and how you can help yourself. Once you understand this, you will be able to consciously help yourself to overcome the anxiety that arises in the future.
Tip three: Do not neglect your childish grievances.
Remember that psychological trauma from childhood is often forgotten. In this case, the white spots of memory are filled with fantasies and fairy tales: it seems to you that this happened, but in fact it was not so. You can not neglect your childish insults – if you have something happened in your childhood, try to say it to yourself. Each of us has the defenseless child inside somewhere in the world that you used to be. Now you have grown up and can take care of yourself little and explain from the adult’s point of view what happened then and why. This approach will help to work through the trauma and it will no longer bother you.
Fourth, most important advice: seek professional psychological help.
It is difficult to get rid of psychological trauma on your own, but. We must not forget that trauma brings negative mental energy, which can lead to somatic diseases. A specialist can identify the cause of psychological trauma and as carefully, carefully and effectively as possible to rid you of the experience of this injury.